It's His Fault

Why do you beat yourself up
because you had the courage to love
gave all of yourself in hopes that he was the one

Why do you beat yourself up
When it was his choice to be unfaithful
His choice to hurt you

Why do you beat yourself up
Knowing that you had done everything for him
supported him, comforted him, 
loved him more than you loved yourself 

Why after his lies and deceit
do you still love him? and want him to love you
Why after the repeat of hurt and trust being lost
do you think that he deserves a love as pure as yours

Why do you beat yourself up
over what you could have done better
when you know deep down there was nothing

What makes you search for answers as to why 
when they will not change the past
Nor mend your broken heart

Why when a man decides to cheat do we blame ourselves?
why does it make us question every little detail about who we are 
Make us think that we are not worthy of love

Why when a man cheats do we still long for him to change
Realize how wrong he was, and fall in love with us again

Why do you beat yourself up
When you deserve more
When all that you have done is loved someone completely

Give yourself time and the pain will subside 
and the mourning will cease
You will see that you are still you
Still wonderful, beautiful you

Nothing has changed except your experience in love
And your determination to share love with another

As you can never truly love someone until you learn to love yourself 

I love you Brigitte, and I will be there any time you need me...No one has ever made me write a poem before so I hope you understand how much I love you.


NOTE = "The reason I wrote this poem was to help a friend. She is so lost right now and I want to help. It hurts me a lot to see her doubt herself because of a man. Not believing in herself anymore because he cheated on her. I hate that men can have the power to not only hurt you but make you blame yourself for their wrong doings. I don't write poems but I just needed to do something."